A four-book series
The Restructured Man
The practical companion to the Love Survival Guide.
Four books that sit alongside The Love Survival Guide — the practical, sequential companion to the trilogy. From the first ninety days of shock, through the legal and financial split, into rebuilding a home and a life, and finally into what comes after.
The books
In order
The Impact Zone — Book One of The Restructured Man Book I of 4
The Impact Zone
A Practical Guide to Surviving the First 90 Days
Book One of The Restructured Man. For the first ninety days after a split — not the why of it, but the how: the specific, practical things that actually help while you’re still in the shock of it, written by someone who’s lived through more than one version of this exact impact.
“If you’ve read my own story, you’ll know the shock of a marriage ending isn’t really a single moment. It’s a physical thing. I’ve felt it more than once in my life — a tight chest, a strange inability to eat properly, the specific, useless business of lying awake replaying a conversation that’s already over. Nobody…”
From the opening pages 
The Practical Split — Book Two of The Restructured Man Book II of 4
The Practical Split
Navigating the Legal and Financial Side of Divorce, Honestly
Book Two of The Restructured Man. For the legal and financial side of a divorce — how to protect what actually matters, your children, your finances, your own peace of mind, with a clear head, without turning the process into a fight you can’t actually win.
“There’s a particular kind of anger that shows up once the legal and financial side of a divorce actually begins, and I want to be honest that I’ve felt it myself, more than once. It’s tempting, in that anger, to want to fight over everything, to make a point, to come out ahead somehow. I’ve watched that instinct cos…”
From the opening pages 
The Sanctuary Shift — Book Three of The Restructured Man Book III of 4
The Sanctuary Shift
Building Your New Home and Managing Solo Fatherhood
Book Three of The Restructured Man. For turning a half-furnished, temporary-feeling flat into an actual home — and the steady, unglamorous, daily reality of raising your children largely on your own, at least for the stretches when they’re with you.
“I remember, more than once in my life, the first night in a new place after a marriage ended — a rented flat, unfamiliar and half-furnished, everything I owned still mostly in boxes. It’s a particular kind of quiet, that first night, and I want to be honest that it took me longer than I expected to stop feeling like…”
From the opening pages 
The Phoenix Phase — Book Four of The Restructured Man Book IV of 4
The Phoenix Phase
Redefining Your Purpose, Rebuilding Your Circle, and Loving Again
Book Four of The Restructured Man. For the stage after things have settled — owning what was actually yours in how the marriage ended, rebuilding a genuine circle of people around you, and, if and when you’re ready, loving again without carrying the last relationship’s weight into the next one.
“This is the last book in this series, and I want to be honest about where it actually picks up: not in crisis anymore, not in the middle of legal paperwork, not still unpacking boxes. This is the stage where things have settled into something stable and quiet, and a different question starts to surface: what now?”
From the opening pages